Mark Ruffalo Talks Mother’s Illegal Abortion, Defends Pro-Choice Movement

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When celebrities lend their voice to a cause, people often listen.

And The Kids Are All Right actor Mark Ruffalo certainly has something to say about women’s right to a healthy abortion.

On Saturday, outside the last abortion clinic in Mississippi (back in 1981 the state had 14 clinics), his pro-choice speech was read aloud. The Avengers actor, 45, reveals why he’s so passionate about protecting a woman’s right to choose — because his own mother, Marie Rose Ruffalo, didn’t have that choice as a young woman.

“I am a man. I could say this has nothing to do with me. Except I have two daughters and I have a mother who was forced to illegally have an abortion in her state where abortion was illegal when she was a very young woman,” he writes in the letter, posted by Stop Patriarchy.

“It cost $600 cash,” he continues of the procedure. “It was a traumatizing thing for her. It was shameful and sleazy and demeaning.

When I heard the story I was aghast by the lowliness of a society that would make a woman do that. I could not understand its lack of humanity; today is no different.”

“What happened to my mother was a relic of an America that was not free nor equal nor very kind,” he says of the U.S. before the Roe v. Wade decision in 1973. “My mother’s illegal abortion marked a time in America that we have worked long and hard to leave behind.

It was a time when women were seen as second-rate citizens who were not smart enough, nor responsible enough, nor capable enough to make decisions about their lives. It was a time that deserved to be left behind, and leave it behind we did, or so it seemed.”

The Academy Award-nominated actor – married for 13 years to actress Sunrise Coigney, with whom he has three kids, son Keen and daughters Bella and Odette — goes on to note that making abortion “legal and available on demand” in the 1970s was a sign of progress.

“My own mother fought to make herself more than a possession; she lived her life as a mother who chose when she would have children, and a wife who could earn a living if she so chose. I want my daughters to enjoy that same choice,” he writes. “I don’t want to turn back the hands of time to when women shuttled across state lines in the thick of night to resolve an unwanted pregnancy, in a cheap hotel room just south of the state line. Where a transaction of $600 cash becomes the worth of a young woman’s life.”

“I actually trust the women I know,” he adds. “I trust them with their choices, I trust them with their bodies, and I trust them with their children. I trust that they are decent enough and wise enough and worthy enough to carry the right of Abortion and not be forced to criminally exercise that Right at the risk of death or jail time.”

Editor’s Note: As a mother-of-three, some might be surprised that I am a pro-choice advocate. I have been witness to the miracle of life — from the precious movements of my growing babies while pregnant, to watching my children grow.

But I remain a strong advocate for women’s rights. Not only have I supported several of my friends through abortions, I will continue to shed light and advocate for a woman’s right to choose. And, in my opinion, Mark’s letter sharing his mother’s story is a step in the right direction for my gender.

I shudder to think of returning to a time when women had to resort to illegal abortions. With so many abortion clinics closing across the U.S., one wonders if this is where we’re headed.

Clearly I am in support, but what do you think of Mark’s letter?

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  1. Tania orsetti

    With love and respect for everyone’s opinion I am so strongly opposed to his letter. As a mother who was not expecting to be pregnant, it wasn’t even a thought. I let that baby grow inside me because what about her choice, where are her women’s rights? I have spoke to women who were supposed to be abortions?! My heart hurts for them. There are so many people who would love to adopt giving everyone the freedom of choice:) I would never, however, dislike or disrespect someone who chooses the abortion for it is not my job to judge. And i have dear friends whom i love who have made that choice. I do feel strongly that things happen for a reason and its so important to allow children their freedom of rights. I don’t think his letter is accurate because nobody forced her to have an abortion in the first place. If she chose to give her baby to a family that could love it she would not have been in a hotel room getting a back alley abortion. Sometimes our pride gets in the way and or exposes something that we have done that we don’t want exposed. But the shame and guilt should not be brought on the child

  2. Grace

    515,000 are waiting to be adopted or are in foster care, according to US statistics. Thousands more are waiting to be adopted from other countries. “Just adopt” – wish people would, but they obviously don’t, otherwise there wouldn’t be hundreds of thousands of children waiting to be placed in homes every year.

  3. Grace

    Pregnant women who discover they have cancer must face the deeply painful choice to save their lives with treatment, but have to terminate their pregnancies; women with dangerous ectopic pregnancies must also act to save their lives, but end the pregnancies; rape victims risk their health for the rest of their lives if they carry to term, or may die in delivery (women do die in delivery) from a pregnancy that was cruelly forced on them; drug and alcohol abusers, and women with severe depression may have no other choice but to go through with abortions; fetuses with severe abnormalities would be tortured with seizures and multiple surgeries, and still painfully die in the hours after birth, and women understandably may choose not to make them suffer; & so many more extremely difficult situations could be listed.

    Think of the women as more than mere incubators, and consider saving women’s lives.


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