Co-parenting over the holidays can be tough for anyone. But what happens when the kids choose one parent over the other? And how do you keep the peace?
According to Kate Gosselin, her eight kids with ex-husband Jon Gosselin – 14-year-old twins Mady and Cara and 10-year-old sextuplets Aaden, Alexis, Colin, Hannah, Joel, and Leah – chose her.
Although the brood typically spends Christmas Eve with their father who lives nearby, “They’re at the age now where we ask them,” the reality TV mom told omg!. “So they basically dictate it and they want to be home Christmas and the days surrounding it.”
Something tells me papa Jon is not pleased
And last year, shortly after their split, Seal didn’t spend the holidays with his kids.
The singer’s estranged wife, Project Runway host Heidi Klum, had custody of their four children during their first post-split Christmas.
“We’re going to stay [in LA] possibly,” the former Victoria’s Secret model said of their four children Leni, 10, Henry, 9, Johan, 8, and Lou, 5. “We’re going to get a big Christmas tree and we might go to Disneyland. We go all over the place.”
She added: “My children are everything for me. I’ve always wanted to have a big family. And I’m fortunate enough to have four.”
According to some celebrity parents, co-parenting doesn’t always have to be a struggle over the holidays.
The Office star Angela Kinsey opened up to Celebrity Baby Scoop about co-parenting with peace over the holidays — and throughout the entire year.
“I like my ex and consider him a good friend,” Kinsey said of ex-husband Warren Lieberstein, with whom she shares 6-year-old daughter Isabel. “We talk everyday regarding our daughter and although we have joint custody, we each visit our daughter every day even when she is at the other’s home.”
And the holidays do not cause any problems for the amicable pair.
“I don’t find it tough to co-parent through the holidays,” Kinsey continued. “We try to pick holiday traditions to do together. We often eat a meal together on Thanksgiving and we always open one gift together on Christmas eve and have breakfast or lunch on Christmas Day. Those little traditions make all the difference for our daughter.”
She added: “I think making the choice that it is about your child and not about you helps you navigate your ego and any bumps along the way.”
“We’re great friends,” D’Angelo said of Pacino, whom she shares 13-year-old twins Anton and Olivia. “The basis of our relationship was always a friendship and now 16 years down the line, it remains the same.”
“These children were vey much wanted and it was a purposeful journey we took together,” D’Angelo added. “We reached a point where we decided it would be better not to live together. But we co-parent well. We have a schedule that we follow when the kids are with me and another for when they’re with him. We have a lot of consistency and we’re good friends. We’ve got a 50/50 agreement and I accommodate his work schedule and vice versa.”
So what are her best tips for peaceful co-parenting?
“My best advice for parents who co-parent together, without sounding too cliché, is always acting in the best interest of the children. It’s a cliché because it’s the truth,” D’Angelo shared.
“As a co-parent, you have to remember that what you’re doing is giving your children an example of conflict resolution, and it’s a mighty gift to give to anybody,” she continued. “In this world, the ability to resolve conflicts in a loving and enlightened way is probably the greatest gift you could ever give to anybody. Not everybody sees things the way you do, and it’s important to see the other person’s point of view – to accommodate, to accept a value system that might be different than yours. All that stuff is an example that you’re giving your children.”
She added: “The absolute worst thing you could ever, ever, ever do to your children, is to involve your children with any facet of the personal relationship you may have with your ex. You have to remember that your ex is the person that your children love.”
Here’s wishing you and your families a peaceful holiday season. If you are co-parenting over the holidays, we urge you to keep your kids’ best interest at heart, regardless of the ugliness that may exist between you and your ex.
What’s your best advice for co-parenting over the holidays?