Most of us can agree that the ‘Mommy Wars‘ must stop.
Despite having our own opinions and parenting styles, it seems the majority can agree to support moms, whether they choose to breastfeed or use formula, co-sleep or let their baby cry-it-out, use disposable versus cloth diapers, and so on.
But what do you think about overly “permissive” moms?
According to The Telegraph, a British judge recently decided that a mother has “significantly failed” her children by letting them play video games for hours on end, not enforcing their bedtimes, and ultimately treating them more like a friend than a parent.
The ruling? Judge Laura Harris granted full custody of the couple’s 11- and 14-year-old sons to their father, who is an advocate of “structure, boundaries and discipline.”
According to the boys’ father, their 41-year-old mother was prone to leaving their sons on their own for long periods of time while she talked on the phone, used her iPad, or napped. He further claimed that the children did not have regular bedtimes and were often late for school or failed to do their homework.
Judge Harris singled out concerns about the mother’s parenting style:
“I consider the mother’s parenting has been permissive, and, although the court must be tolerant of different standards of parenting, I consider the permissive parenting in this case has caused the children harm.
I accept the evidence … that she does spend hours under the duvet, on the phone or using her iPad, and that the children are left to their own devices,” the judge said.
“It also seems to me to be likely, from what the father and [the older boy] said, that they are spending a lot of time playing on their own on their Xboxes.”
Judge Harris continued: “The mother … has, in my judgment, consistently failed to meet their educational needs and therefore risks compromising in particular [the older boy’s] educational prospects. It is likely that [the younger boy] would be in the same situation as he grew older.
I consider that she does have a very permissive style of parenting, and I accept the father’s evidence that she is more like a friend than a parent. I am satisfied that there is a failure to provide proper guidance and boundaries essential for the social and emotional development of these preadolescent and adolescent boys.”
She concluded: “Further, I have real concerns about her as a role model.”
The judge added that the mother suffered some form of depression.
Do you agree that the mom should NOT have custody of the children?