Are you ready to hear the best-kept secret known to womankind?
If so, let me ask you this. Did you have an ecstatic birth? You know, the big O.
No really, did you have an orgasm during childbirth? Because according to many women, not only is it humanly possible, it is happening more than we are aware.
There are websites and workshops on this very topic. Not to mention, Dr. Christiane Northrup created a free download on the ecstatic birth experience, where she outlines the challenges in creating an orgasmic birth experience given current birthing conditions. Dr. Northrup discusses why pleasure — physical, emotional, or spiritual — is a necessary ingredient in birth and how we can get there.
They say that fear is the No. 1 factor causing pain and interventions during childbirth, thereby inhibiting women from enjoying their birth experiences on physical and emotional levels.
Supermodel mom Gisele Bündchen might be the most outspoken A-lister ever on the topic.
“My delivery was in a bath tub, in water,” Gisele said. “I wanted to have a home birth. I wanted to be very aware and present during the birth… I didn’t want to be drugged up. So I did a lot of preparation, I did yoga and meditation, so I managed to have a very tranquil birth at home. It didn’t hurt in the slightest. The whole time my mind was focused in each contraction on the thought ‘my baby is closer to coming out.’”
The Brazilian beauty further spoke about her “empowered” birth experience.
“I wanted to experience the transformation. It was the most amazing experience of my life, feeling him come through my body. And once he was born, I never felt so empowered as looking at him and thinking, Oh, my God, we did it together!”
Gisele isn’t the only celeb mom to put a positive spin on a topic that is frequently feared. The Wonder Years alum Danica McKellar is another celebrity to speak out on her ecstatic birth experience.
“I did indeed go fully natural with the birth – no augmentation, no epidural, nada! It was the most incredible experience of my LIFE, and it’s hard to describe the feeling of empowerment that has come along with it. Easy? No. Worth it? YES.”
The Pursuit of Happyness star Thandie Newton has joined in on spreading the word.
“[It was] very challenging in the best way possible,” Thandie said of giving birth. “Every fiber of your being is alive. It’s like you are conducting electricity, literally creating something. I’d like to give birth every year if I could, just for that experience.”
For myself, I didn’t even come close to any form of physical pleasure during my three births!
My first child was born via planned C-section due to breech presentation. My second and third children were VBACs — and let’s just say I was not exactly zen during labor and delivery.
That said, I know ecstatic births are not only possible, they do happen. Within my own social circle, one of my friends describes her natural birth as the greatest pleasure – physical, emotional and spiritual – that she has ever know.
Please share your birth story. Did you have an ecstatic birth?