The “mommy wars” affect Academy Award winners!
A few weeks ago, Iron Man star Gwyneth Paltrow, 41, was put under serious scrutiny by both the media and working moms when she talked about her high-profile career versus women who work 9-to-5 jobs during an interview with E! Online.
“I think it’s different when you have an office job, because it’s routine and, you know, you can do all the stuff in the morning and then you come home in the evening,” Gwyneth said. “When you’re shooting a movie, they’re like, ‘We need you to go to Wisconsin for two weeks,’ and then you work 14 hours a day and that part of it is very difficult. I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, of course there are challenges, but it’s not like being on set.”
These ‘fighting words’ caused fierce online backlash, with hundreds of angry women saying the actress has no right to say her situation is harder than theirs. Most of the comments suggested that while Gwyneth might be busy outside of the home, she has a team of professionals helping out (including nannies, house cleaners, etc.) and loads of money to keep her career running smooth.
So the newly separated actress – who is mom to Apple, 9, and Moses, 8, with estranged husband Chris Martin – used her weekly Goop newsletter to respond to those who slammed her as an elitist.
“This somehow was taken to mean I had said a 9-5 job is easier, and a lot of heat was thrown my way, especially by other working mothers who somehow used my out-of-context quote as an opportunity to express feelings (perhaps projected) on the subject,” she writes.
“As the mommy wars rage on, I am constantly perplexed and amazed by how little slack we cut each other as women,” Gwyneth adds. “We see disapproval in the eyes of other mothers when we say how long we breastfed (Too long? Not long enough?), or whether we have decided to go back to work versus stay home. Is it not hard enough to attempt to raise children thoughtfully, while contributing something, or bringing home some (or more) of the bacon? Why do we feel so entitled to opine, often so negatively, on the choices of other women? Perhaps because there is so much pressure to do it all, and do it all well all at the same time (impossible).”
What do you think? Does this fall under the category of “mommy wars,” or did Gwyneth simply give a thoughtless quote?
Last June, I published a story on the mommy wars. To date, it has been my most viewed story and has gone viral on most social media outlets.
Why did it strike such a chord? The story showcases everyday moms with opposing views on everything from breastfeeding, to post-baby bodies, to feeding methods — and they’re doing so in peace.
These any many other ‘hot topics’ regarding motherhood were being challenged in this compassionate campaign, asking our fellow sister to embrace various parenting styles and stop the mommy wars once and for all.
While I love this campaign – and I agree that the mommy wars must come to an end – I’m not sure this was the case with Gwyneth.
What do you think? Was Gwyneth a victim of the mommy wars? Or did she have the backlash coming?