Ethan Hawke: “Our Species Is Not Monogamous”

Well here’s an interesting interview.

When speaking of his “present wife,” actor Ethan Hawke talks about his true feelings on monogamy in Mr. Porter‘s November 2013 issue.

Reportedly, Hawke cheated on his first wife, actress Uma Thurman, with their nanny. The Hollywood couple are parents to daughter Maya, now 15, and son Levon, now 11.

And guess what? He went on to marry the nanny, Ryan Shawhughes! The controversial couple are now parents to daughters Clementine, 5, and Indiana, 2.

Continue reading Hawke’s thoughts on marriage and how our “species is not monogamous.” 

On his relationship with wife Ryan: “My relationship with my present wife is thrilling to me and I’m committed to it. But neither she nor I know what shape the future will come in. Sexual fidelity can’t be the whole thing you hang your relationship on. If you really love somebody you want them to grow, but you don’t get to define how that happens. They do.”

On his divorce from Uma Thurman: “We tried to be as optimistic as we could be: we all want to believe in love and the possibility of love. The older you get, the more you realise how powerful love is. You understand the right ways for emotion to lead your life and the dangerous ways. I don’t regret marrying early. Gattaca was a great moment in my life and a great moment in Uma Thurman’s life and we fell madly in love and wanted to do all that.”

On his general view of monogamy: “People have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity. ‘He’s cheated so he’s bad, she’s cheated so she’s bad’, as opposed to a recognition that our species is not monogamous. To act all indignant, that your world has been rocked because your lover wasn’t faithful to you, is a little bit like acting rocked that your hair went grey. I am [monogamous], but in Before Midnight there is the threat of sexual attraction to others and maintaining your sexual identity with your partner over a long period of time. Human beings are sexual beings.”

What do you think of Hawke’s views? Sad but true? Or sadly mistaken?

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