Fat-Shaming Post-Baby Bodies is “An Interesting Statement About Where We Are Socially”

After comedian Jay Mohr publicly fat-shamed  actress Alyssa Milano, the Who’s the Boss? alum graciously accepted his online apology. But the Mistresses actress, 41, admits that his words were hurtful.

“It hurt me. I was affected by it,” Alyssa told Extra, adding that she heard about his comments on Christmas Day. “I wanted to remind him that I’m a human being and that this hurts.”

Admitting that she gained 55 pounds during her pregnancy with her now 2-year-old son Milo, the actress says society places too much pressure on new moms to drop the post-baby pounds.

“I think it’s an interesting statement about where we are socially that people feel that they can sort of rip a woman’s body apart after having a baby,” she added.

Alyssa continued: “I think we’ve plastered these celebrities on tabloids about how much weight they gained during their pregnancy and how quickly they lose it afterwards. So it’s sort of, unfortunately, everyone’s fair game, and I don’t think it’s fair.”

You preach that good word, Alyssa!

The urgency to lose baby weight in Hollywood is almost as serious as an Oscar win.

Who dropped the postpartum pounds the fastest? Who debuted their post-baby body on a magazine cover? How much did she gain during her pregnancy?

Society seems salacious for this topic — just look at all the media buzz.

  • Jessica Simpson

Mom-of-two Jessica Simpson covers the February issue of Redbook and opens up about her happy family life with Eric Johnson and their daughter Maxwell, 18 months, and 6-month-old son Ace.

She goes on to talk about the public’s criticism of her weight, and how she keeps it all together.

On what it felt like when the press attacked her weight, Jessica says:

“I never listen to it, no matter who the press talks about when they’re pregnant. It’s ridiculous and unfair,” she shared. “I think any woman who is pregnant and creating a life is pretty much entitled to eat whatever she wants as long as she’s healthy. I wasn’t going to let the media take away from what was one of the happiest times in my life.”

Keep up the positive thinking, Jess!

  • Kourtney Kardashian:

Kourtney Kardashian showed off her svelte postpartum figure on Us Weekly‘s cover. The reality TV star welcomed her second child, daughter Penelope, last July. And just six months later, the mom-of-two, then 33, rocked a bikini to show off her 44-pound weight loss.

“It was harder to lose weight the second time around,” Kourtney shared. “I gained 45 pounds with Penelope.”

And not to mention, the brunette beauty was reportedly paid a whopping $200,000 to pose on the magazine’s cover in a two-piece.

Is that a realistic body image for women to aspire?!

  • Holly Madison

At just 6 weeks postpartum, former Playboy model Holly Madison revealed her 30-pound weight loss in a bikini.

“I was surprised by how much weight I gained,” the Girls Next Door alum said. “I was a little worried about wearing a bikini, but I feel surprisingly good!”

Why the urgency to reveal the weight loss and bare body?

  • Megan Fox:

This is 40 star Megan Fox welcomed her first child, son Noah, with husband Brian Austin Green last September. Just two months later, the new mom (now expecting her second child) weighed in on her thin frame and minimal weight gain.

“I only gained 23 pounds when I was pregnant and I’m still 10 pounds heavier than I was but I don’t want to kill myself trying to get back into shape because it’s not a priority right now,” she said.

The actress was later asked to share her best post-baby weight loss tips.

“I can’t work out yet because my body is still too fragile,” Megan said. “I try to eat whatever I want, but I don’t eat any dairy, and I guess that’s the biggest diet tip. Try and stay away from dairy – especially if you’re a woman! It’s really hard on your hormones.”

Instead, why can’t the media ask her about the joys of new motherhood?!

  • Gisele Bündchen:

Supermodel Gisele Bündchen and husband, football star Tom Brady, welcomed their second child, daughter Vivian, last year.

A few weeks after welcoming their first child, son Benjamin in 2009, the model mom looked svelte on the cover of Vogue. The Brazilian beauty talked about regaining her figure almost instantly.

“I think it’s muscle memory,” Gisele said. “I did kung fu up until two weeks before Benjamin was born, and yoga three days a week. I think a lot of people get pregnant and decide they can turn into garbage disposals. I was mindful about what I ate, and I gained only 30 pounds.”

While it sounds like she worked hard on staying healthy, is it really OK to compare a pregnant woman to a garbage disposal?

  • Reese Witherspoon:

Academy Award-winning actress Reese Witherspoon has been keeping things in perspective since welcoming her third child, son Tennessee, last September.

At just 3-months postpartum – when the media asked how she’s “bouncing back” to her pre-baby body – the Oscar-winner kept it real.

“I don’t know if I’m bouncing back. I’m slowly crawling back,” said the actress, who’s also mom to daughter Ava, 14, and son Deacon, 10.

So why does the media pressure celebrity moms – and moms at large – to focus on weight and body image during the postpartum period?

I wish the urgent desire to quickly drop pregnancy weight would go away. This is madness — a woman has just welcomed a baby!

We should encourage new moms to recover from pregnancy, and blissfully bond with her baby. We should not create and perpetuate superficial, unrealistic and shallow body images for women and girls.

Stop shaming our postpartum bodies! Wear your muffin tops, stretch marks, and pounds proudly, my sisters. You are a goddess.

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