Do you believe in the ‘keep it sexy’ rule?
I think most parents can agree that unconditional love is a no-brainer when it comes to our children. But can the rest of us say the same about our life partners?
In a recent interview, actor Boris Kodjoe, spoke candidly about his seemingly-conditional love for his wife.
“O.K. Part of the deal is…you got to keep it sexy. Got to keep it sexy. Because it’s easy getting married, but it’s not as easy to stay married,” the Resident Evil star, 40, star said.
“We have two kids, but we have priority because we were here first,” he added. “That’s part of the vow we took — to keep it sexy.”
The Soul Food actor went on to say that he wouldn’t blame his wife for cheating if he became overweight.
“And part of that is, like I make my wife, my girlfriend,” he said. “She’s my girlfriend. So, we got to keep it sexy….What if I gained 200 pounds? And then she’ll look at me like..really? And I couldn’t even blame her if she started looking around. Because I took her off the market, so I have to deliver, what the market could possibly deliver for her. So, I gotta take that place. Right? So, I got to fulfill those things that the market could’ve given her. I’m the market now, so I got to keep it sexy and she has to do the same for me.”
“I keep a six pack for her. I workout and eat right because I want to keep it sexy for her,” he added.
I appreciate that he’s saying they both have to uphold their sexiness, but to me, his ‘keep it sexy’ rule is way too much pressure.
What if I get an injury and can’t workout regularly anymore? Will he leave me if I get fat during my recovery? What if I can’t get back into workout mode? What if I get a thyroid problem? What if my ice cream addiction kicks in again? What if I simply get fat with old age?
Does he even love me in the first place?
These, and many more ‘what ifs’ would be running through my mind if I were married to him. The anxiety would kill me…and ultimately, would kill the love between us.
And call me crazy, but isn’t there more to a marriage than sexiness? What about being best friends and a soft place to fall during hard times?
Or maybe that’s just un-sexy me talking?
Do you think lifetime partners are obliged to keep it sexy?