Media mogul Oprah Winfrey seems to have it all: a killer career, billions of dollars in the bank, decade-long friendships and a successful partnership with longtime love Stedman Graham.
But what is the one thing she does not have? Children.
According the the talk show queen, 59, living a child-free life is a good thing.
“If I had kids, my kids would hate me,” Oprah told THR. “They would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me; because something [in my life] would have had to suffer and it would’ve probably been them.”
Oprah – who, at 14, gave birth to a baby who only lived for a few weeks – said her attitude towards having more children is very different than her longtime BFF Gayle King.
“Gayle [a mother of two] was the kind of kid who, in seventh grade Home Ec class, was writing down her name and the names of her children,” Oprah said. “While she was having those kind of daydreams, I was having daydreams about how I could be Martin Luther King.”
While Oprah may not have children of her own, she is very much a mother figure to the students attending the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls, the school which she opened in 2007 and to which she has contributed more than $100 million.
“I’m responding to everything from ‘I’m feeling lost’ to ‘I need advice about a boy,’” she shared of her daily emails with the girls at the academy.
Worth a reported 2.9 billion dollars, Oprah – who earned a Screen Actors Guild nomination Wednesday for her scene-stealing work in The Butler – said she plans to move from Chicago to Montecito by her 60th birthday in January.
What do you think of Oprah’s thoughts on not having kids?
Personally, I appreciate her honesty. She had huge dreams, make them come true, and choose to put her career first. Frankly, I think not having children was a smart decision.
Whether you’re a high-profile mom with an A-list career, or a common-day workaholic, I think kids can suffer if their moms are too wrapped up in work.
And while many women like to think they can “have it all,” I truly don’t think this is possible. Something’s gotta give, and it seems like Oprah intuitively knew this.
What are your thoughts on this?