Teen pregnancy is one of those topics that really gets the debates going!
Like many moms of teenaged girls, birth control becomes a ‘tough’ topic that needs to be addressed.
Our friends at PopSugar Moms, and their Circle of Moms, share reasons why you should – and should not – put your teen daughter on birth control pills.
“I absolutely would put my daughter on the pill,” one mom says. “Let’s be real here — we can teach our daughters about STDs, pregnancy, sex, and love, but in the end, we know they are going to do exactly what they want.”
Here are 5 reasons the Circle of Moms give for putting your teen daughter on birth control pills:
- 1. Better safe than sorry
The moms say that even if you worry you’re sending your daughter a message that it is okay for her to have sex, it is better to be safe than sorry.
- 2. She’s asked to be on the pill
If your teenage daughter approaches you about going on the pill, many of the moms warn that denying her birth control is unlikely to dissuade her from becoming sexually active.
- 3. She has medical issues
Many moms put their teen daughters on birth control pills to help painful periods or other medical conditions.
- 4. Teens lie about having sex
The moms point out that teens don’t always tell their parents the truth about their sexual activity, even if you think your relationship is open and trusting.
- 5. It breeds trust & good decision-making
Many moms who put their daughters on birth control pills say they do not want to repeat the mistakes of their own mothers, who didn’t educate them at all about sex or birth control, which made the whole subject taboo.
So what’s the other side of the story?
According to the Circle of Moms, here are 3 reasons why you should NOT put your daughter on the pill.
- 1. It violates my religion
Some of the moms say that their daughter is not allowed to be on birth control pills because it goes against their religious beliefs. One mom says: “I believe teaching Godly values and having children in church where they can be around other Christian girls can help strengthen their moral values of staying pure til they are married.”
- 2. It sends my daughter the wrong message
Quite a few moms say that we need to discourage teen sex – not necessarily for religious reasons – and putting your teen daughter on the pill sends the wrong message and gives her permission to have sex.
- 3. It can create health issues
Some of the moms intend to keep their teen daughters away from oral contraceptives to avoid side effects of the pill such as blood clots, stroke, and even depression.
Now that you’ve heard both sides of the story, how do you feel about this issue?
Personally, my daughter is only 4-years-old, so the thought of her being sexually active one day makes me want to poke my eyes out with hot burning coals!
That being said, I know the hormones are going to rear their ugly heads and she will be like every other horny teenager on the planet.
So, yes, I will definitely be putting my daughter on the pill when she is a teen. I would hate for her to be faced with an unwanted pregnancy in her youth, long before she is ready to take on the responsibilities of motherhood.
I will be preaching the importance of post-secondary education, and providing her with nauseating levels of support and encouragement to get herself established. My daughter will know that relying on a man for financial support is not the goal. And my daughter will know that getting pregnant in her youth, long before completing her eduction, will only bring unwanted struggle and stress.
And what will I do about my two sons, you ask?
Of course, I can’t pop a pill in their mouths to prevent teen pregnancies. However, I will teach them – again, at nauseating levels – that the discussion of birth control is a must in any sexual relationship. Not only should they ask their partner if she is on the pill, but they should always wear a condom as well.
Ugh, this topic is a tough one, but I do feel very strongly about my parenting decision.
What are your thoughts and feelings?