Has life got you down?
Perhaps you’re struggling with the death of a loved one, a serious injury, a bad breakup, career change, friendship crap, or just a bunch of stuff.
Many of us get caught up in our yesterdays, holding onto situations or relationships lost. Similarly, worrying about our tomorrows can also cause unnecessary pain.
There’s no question that life can be challenging, but it’s important to remember how to embrace the journey. Here are 5 reminders of how to work through the pain and find your happiness. After all, happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.
1. The grieving process is a gift.
Change is hard. Whether a loved one has died, or you’re going through a divorce, you’ve lost your job, you’re dealing with a serious injury, or moving on from a BFF, life-altering change can be all consuming. When times get tough, remind yourself that pain comes with a purpose. Honor your feelings and follow them — even when it’s scary. Your feelings will lead you to your truth, and allow you to open other doors.
2. Pain is temporary.
After darkness, there is always light. During hard times, remember that nothing lasts forever. So if things are good for you right now, show gratitude because life is ever changing. And if life is rough right now, don’t worry because this too shall pass. Every day is a new beginning and a new opportunity to renew yourself, choose differently, and define yourself as the person you want to be.
3. Worry is a wasted emotion.
Those who worry and complain usually accomplish the least. So why not attempt a different path when one door closes on you? It is better to ‘fail’ at something than do nothing at all. Complaining today about what happened yesterday – or what might happen tomorrow – does not embrace personal growth and positive changes. Instead, why not learn from the past, stop worrying about the ‘what ifs,’ and move forward to improve life as you know it.
4. Other people’s problems are not your problems.
Are you surrounded by emotional vampires? When people are negative, don’t let them drag you into their drama. If you are being treated poorly by someone, don’t allow them to change you. Remember that it’s never personal! People act out negatively because of their own insecurities, not because of you. Life is short — surrounding yourself with negative people will only drag you down. Wouldn’t you rather smile and laugh with like-minded individuals, rather than hear the non-stop drama and petty crap?!
5. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
It’s not just a Kelly Clarkson song, folks. Your scars in life are the symbols of your strength. You’ve survived other hard times, you can get through this challenge as well. Reflect on the coping skills that worked in your past, the lessons learned along the road, and be thankful for the journey. Living life in fear of what’s to come, or being regretful of your past, is only holding back your tomorrows. You’ve made it this far, there’s no reason you can’t keep growing and learning. Hold onto your dreams and work toward them. Learn to smile and appreciate all that life has to offer — you’ll never know who you’ll attract along the road to share in life’s journeys.
If you’ve made it this far into the article, you’re probably thinking to yourself, ‘I already knew all of this.’ You did! But the truth is, all of us need a few reminders along the road.
Learn to love your life, trust your intuition, reflect on lessons learned, and take chances. Stop the incessant worry and have a little faith! You’ve only got one shot at life, so why not embrace it and have some fun along the journey.