Since welcoming my first child in 2006, it seems I’ve morphed nicely into mommyhood.
I’m not one of those moms that talks about my children non-stop — not that my three kids (aged 3, 5 & 8) aren’t the cutest and most special humans on the planet!
But there is no question that my life has taken on new meaning – and I’ve developed some strange new habits – since becoming a mother.
So let’s take a look at the top 10 ways motherhood has changed me.
10. I am always at the grocery store.
The amount of milk I have purchased in the past eight years is alarming — I should’ve bought shares in our local dairy farm. Not only that, it’s pretty bad when you are always at the supermarket and know the employees by their first name, according to their specific departments. (By the way, what’s with all the hot guys working in the produce section?) Seriously though, sometimes just blasting the tunes while driving to the grocery store – sans kids – is the highlight of my week.
9. I drink copious amounts of coffee (errr, and wine).
I fancy myself a bit of a “mombie” these days. Sadly, the rigors of motherhood cause many of us to de-stress with copious amounts of caffeine during the day, followed by an evening glass of vino. Is this really healthy, amidst our kale smoothies and high-protein diets, fellow mombies?
8. I’d rather get a good night’s sleep than stay out late.
Lord knows I love my GNOs, but these days I’m just as happy to stay home, change into my PJs by 7 p.m., and hit the sack by 9 – 9:30 at the latest. Sexy, I know! As it turns out, motherhood and maintaining everyday life (work, meal prep, cleaning, keeping the marriage strong, and everything else in between) is simply exhausting.
7. My hair is a mess most of the time.
There’s nothing like ‘embracing’ the aging process, eh ladies! Thanks to years of over-processing, my hair is a frizzy mess, making it easier to put back into a ponytail or messy bun most days. Pre-motherhood, I had the best hair on the block. I would simply factor in the time it took to work out the frizz before stepping out in style. Sigh…
6. I sing made-up songs all day long.
As it turns out, I truly am turning into my mother. Whether I’m toasting a bagel, sweeping up the floor, or watching my kids run in the backyard you will hear me belt out an impromptu song about the occasion. Although practically tone deaf, my family has yet to abandon me for this newfound habit.
5. I believe strongly in self-care.
Since welcoming my babies and being faced with the hard work of motherhood, I’ve learned to take care of myself. Although a debated topic by some, I put myself first above the kids and the marriage. While some say I’m being selfish, it’s actually all about self-preservation. While completing my bachelor or social work in my university days, the concept of “self-care” was drilled into our heads. I am putting those valuable lessons into practice now that I’m a mother, with regular exercise, clean eating and at least 5 minutes of meditation every day. Not only that, I’m sure to keep my expectations at a minimum — as it turns out, life is not a Ryan Gosling movie.
4. I realize how difficult it is to make new (& quality) friends.
Is it just me, or is it damn near impossible to find quality friendships these days? I have a dozen BFFs from my childhood and high school, but when it comes to making new mommy friends, I haven’t been so fortunate. With two of my kids in school, you’d think I’d be fighting off the mommy friends with a stick. Not quite, even though I wear the required Luluemon uniform of overpriced yoga pants and uncomfortable hoodies. (I sense another blog/rant on this topic coming your way soon….)
3. I don’t try so hard to be perfect.
Before I became a mother, I was the perfect parent. Truth is, I make mistakes, my house is a mess most of the time, and I always seem to be pissing someone off. And regardless of not being the coolest mommy on the block, my husband and kids think I’m pretty neat — frizzy bun-head and all. While there’s a fine line between letting yourself go and simplifying your look, there’s also a balance between striving to be the ‘perfect’ wife/mother/friend and just trying to do your best. Although I never want to quit learning and reaching for new goals, I’ve stopped trying to please everyone and comparing myself to other women and their seemingly perfect lives.
2. I have a newfound sense of purpose.
Sure I felt somewhat useful prior to welcoming my babies. But since motherhood, I’ve felt a deep sense of purpose and meaning. I really need to stay alive – and healthy – for my three kids. Some people might like reading my articles, and there are those who enjoy my company, but my kids literally need me in every sense.
1. I know the true meaning of unconditional love.
As it turns out, those twangy country music songs had it right all along! There’s nothing quite like the love between a mother and child. If any of my kids were to do unthinkable acts (yes, even the most heinous of crimes), I would still love them without a doubt. While I’ve felt deep love for others, all three of my kids have expanded my heart and my capacity to love in ways I had not known.
Can you relate to my list? How has motherhood changed you?